We have all tried to people please at some point in our lives. I for one am a people pleaser to a fault. I will people please myself right into unhappiness. What is the point of giving so much of yourself that you have nothing for yourself?
During a family party yesterday I was getting compliments on my recent weight loss. I've been working my booty off (really!) and it felt great to hear it....but I kept waiting to hear just one positive remark from my mom and it never came. At the end of the night I felt like crying. She and I worked together for 2 1/2 years, she knows how hard my struggle with weight has been and how defeated I had been each time I had failed.
So while others listened to me go on about my workouts and Beachbody and how I finally feel like I have it under control...she listened and seemed annoyed and said nothing. I waited, I wondered if it would come and nothing.
It was a blow I half expected, but one that I had hoped I was wrong about. So I went to bed feeling a mixture of anger, sadness and confusion about how this woman who I have been so close to could completely ignore my happiness....
and then I had it. It was MY happiness. Mine and really mine alone. Looking to other people (as great as it feels) to lift me up and make me feel good about myself is a mistake. Seeking out positive praise for something I'm doing for myself is a moot point.
I have taken control, I'm happier, I'm skinnier and I don't need anyone to validate that. So this morning my message to you is DO IT FOR YOU. Because at the end of the day you never know who will support your journey and who won't...but it really doesn't matter if you are taking steps to leading a healthier and happier life for yourself.
